Is it wrong to be in love with a fictional character? (Read below)

[Ite]

Katie Holmes had a poster of Tom Cruise on her door all the time she was growing up. The guy was jump-on-couches in love with her and she still wound up divorcing him.

edit: ohhh... I made myself
I guess what I mean to say is that... nobody knows what they want? So... just... be kind to people and pay attention when people are kind to you. It's one of the lessons that Rinoa taught Squall.

 

[Ryushikaze]

I present SummonerYuna as a cautionary tale: this was a person who actually believed they were married to Sephiroth, and what seemed to some like harmless fun ended up consuming her reality, becoming increasingly unstable until Cloverfield came out

Fixed

Well, that just changed the instability.

She thought she was married to the monster after that.

 

[Kuja9001]

It wasn't that bad! I didn't have a shrine or plastified pictures. And I was a teenager so that makes it okay, right? I just liked her knitted blue thing. I have (had?) a thing for textures on women I can't touch

Also it was the first video game I played (as far as I can remember) with a female character with a personality and a game that contains a relationship and an extensive story, so there.

Like this? This guy scares me

 

[The Twilight Mexican]

Is that Toriyama's desk?

 

[Squall Leonhart Loire]

Is that Toriyama's desk?

Damn, beat me to it.

I do have a FF8 shrine. Although 8 is not my favorite game of all time though. That be Xenogears.

 

[Kuja9001]

Is that Toriyama's desk?

If it was, it would be packed with Serah stuff.

 

[ChipNoir]

I would say I often have crushes on certain kinds of male characters. Usually the strong, cocky, feisty kind. Zell Dincht and Iori Junpei often come to mind as examples. These characters don't set the standard, so much as they have the same qualities I would find attractive in a real life person. Since you spend so much time being invested in the characters, you almost start to think of them as 'real' even though you know they aren't. It's a "Well, if they 'were' real, I'd ask them out" sort of deal I think, at least for the rational minded,


Of course on GameFaqs FFVII-forum we have a strange birdy who has regularly written whole essays about his obsession with Aerith and finding a woman who strongly resembles her, and how it's his fate to be with such a woman. It's all likely farce, but it does put one a little ill at ease to think someone could get that obsessive.

 

[Squall Leonhart Loire]

I would say I often have crushes on certain kinds of male characters. Usually the strong, cocky, feisty kind. Zell Dincht and Iori Junpei often come to mind as examples. These characters don't set the standard, so much as they have the same qualities I would find attractive in a real life person. Since you spend so much time being invested in the characters, you almost start to think of them as 'real' even though you know they aren't. It's a "Well, if they 'were' real, I'd ask them out" sort of deal I think, at least for the rational minded,


Of course on GameFaqs FFVII-forum we have a strange birdy who has regularly written whole essays about his obsession with Aerith and finding a woman who strongly resembles her, and how it's his fate to be with such a woman. It's all likely farce, but it does put one a little ill at ease to think someone could get that obsessive.

Yeah but he's just a massive troll:


knowyourmeme.com/memes/joshcube

 

[Dawnbreaker]

Being in love with a fictional character? Who does that?!

...Now don't mind me while I go look up Warrior of Light pornfics.

 

[Squall Leonhart Loire]

I found her. <3

Wishes can come true.

 

[Octo]

That was quick!

Hey guys maybe this is an enchanted thread, post your ideal person and they'll materialise within two weeks

 

[Squall Leonhart Loire]

That was quick!

Hey guys maybe this is an enchanted thread, post your ideal person and they'll materialise within two weeks

Not quick.

She is a Korean girl with Central Asian origins. Looks like Rinoa but she is around 5 feet and 10 inches, with more prominent cleavage, larger rear measurements, and personality wise very similar but also not as immature as Rinoa.

 

[The Twilight Mexican]

Remember that posting here at TLS made it possible.

So, uh, spread the wealth, know what I'm sayin'?

 

[Squall Leonhart Loire]

Well if your perception is clear anything can be found in plain sight.

 

[fancy]

I have a lot of feelings on this sort of thing.

I think it&#8217;s totally fine to love (the idea of) fictional characters and to admire them for traits that either we ourselves want to emulate or would find attractive in others. Hell, I'll dreamily sigh when thinking of some of my favourite characters, and I'm sure I've subconsciously compared actual people to them (and found them lacking, lol). However, in admiring these characters, I think it becomes very easy to get caught up in an idealised sort of romance.

&#8220;If I could just find someone just like Character X, then I would be happy...&#8221;

Such a romance does not exist except in books and films. In reality, whilst someone can fill in a lot of the empty spaces in your life, they can not and should not be expected to fill everything. Can you imagine someone putting that sort of pressure to be their everything on you? So why would you push that on someone else?

In reality, even the person you love most will occasionally disappoint you, or annoy you, or frustrate you. Love, methinks, is not so much about finding someone who will give you absolute happiness, but rather, finding someone who proves worthy of your devotion in spite of all their flaws. And who is absolutely devoted to you in spite of all of yours.

I bring this up because I think that folks (especially out West) have a tendency to romanticise what real love is. We&#8217;ve all grown up hearing stories about &#8220;one true love&#8221;s and &#8220;happily ever after&#8221;s and sacrificing everything for the sake of a pure and lasting love. Because of this, one may be tempted to create a very narrow definition of the sort of person they want or even project attributes to someone they already admire because they are sure this &#8220;soulmate&#8221; is the only one for them.

It&#8217;s absolutely fine to have preferences, but if you open yourself up to other possibilities, what you find may surprise you. So this person you&#8217;ve met doesn&#8217;t have, say, a face like Yuna&#8217;s or a humour like Cid's or a presence like Sephiroth's or whoever your idol may be, but they offer you something else that you never realised you wanted until they gave it to you. &#8216;Cause that&#8217;s the funny thing about relationships; each one can teach you something you hadn't realised you needed to learn about yourself, about others, and life in general.

TL;DR: Careful not to be too picky as no "perfect person" exists.

Having said this, congratulations on finding your own &#8220;Rinoa." Wishing you all the best! Hope you prove good for each other.

 

[Channy]

It wasn't that bad! I didn't have a shrine or plastified pictures.

.....*casually takes down the framed Aerith posters, wall scrolls and many duplicate action figures and statues*

 

[Squall Leonhart Loire]

Girlfriend's voice sounds like what Rinoa would sound like to me:
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0BCQEtZTu5D

 

[MoonSkull]

I made my dream goal a long time to find a woman like Rinoa. Is it wrong to feel this way?

Asian women.

But even then, she's sort of a one-dimensional "pixie manic hipster dream girl" that doesn't really exist in real life and often they write and characterize romantic leads in this manner ( like they are perfect) for some reason or another. I don't know why, it's always sort of irked me.

 

[Vivi_Carol]

Of course not!
I'm in love with Nyx Ulric and nothing's inadequate! Though, the love is unrequited.

 

[MoonSkull]

Seriously though, considering these are games that are written and created in the East, the types of characters and way they are written is seriously influenced by their culture and as far as social norms and everything, I think a lot of asian and Japanese women are sort of socialized to act that way.

So if you want a girlfriend like Rinhoa, then I think Asian women is a good start. Plus the way she looks and the features, a Eurasian/Asian is a pretty good bet. They are immigrating to our countries all the time now anyway, and from my experience that's what a lot of them act like. All ridiculously cutesy and child like. Yes it is sort of oddly attractive I guess.

 

[AerithLives]

I cant see how you could truly love someone fictional. Feelings for, yes perhaps, but love...that's a very powerful emotion.

Wouldnt you be more in love with the idea of her? I certainly felt like I had feelings for Aeris, almost like I knew her personally, but to love someone is to know them. Applying them to your personality is hard to fathom.