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Squall Leonhart Loire · 03/15/2017

I made my dream goal a long time to find a woman like Rinoa. Is it wrong to feel this way?

***Cthulhu*** · 03/15/2017

Not going to lie, I felt like that when I first played FFVIII

Then I was given ownership of another forum (FFOF) and found a secret section where the previous owner (username Squall something) was awkwardly cybering with another user called Rinoa and I was like "yup I'm definitely over that now"

**ForceStealer** · 03/15/2017

Squall would be the worst cyber-er ever

Octo · 03/15/2017

Depends. When you say like Rinoa do you just mean 'looks like' or personality? Just cos, if it's the former you're probably setting yourself up for unhappiness, cos you could probably find someone who looks similar (though even that might be hard!) but then they might do your head in personality wise

But no, I don't think it's wrong to be in love with a fictional character. Just don't let it impact your life to the point where you won't even consider real people*. Often people have a fixed ideal, but then life can surprise you, and you might find the love of your life in someone unexpected.

*Assuming you give a shit off course. I think it's perfectly possible to be happy alone

Flintlock · 03/15/2017

Cthulhu wrote: Not going to lie, I felt like that when I first played FFVIII

What is it with forum admins being into video game characters?

***Cthulhu*** · 03/15/2017

It wasn't that bad! I didn't have a shrine or plastified pictures. And I was a teenager so that makes it okay, right? I just liked her knitted blue thing. I have (had?) a thing for textures on women I can't touch

Also it was the first video game I played (as far as I can remember) with a female character with a personality and a game that contains a relationship and an extensive story, so there.

Squall Leonhart Loire · 03/15/2017

Cthulhu wrote: Not going to lie, I felt like that when I first played FFVIII

Then I was given ownership of another forum (FFOF) and found a secret section where the previous owner (username Squall something) was awkwardly cybering with another user called Rinoa and I was like "yup I'm definitely over that now"

When was this? Was it explicit?

Mr. Ite · 03/15/2017

In answer to your question: no. It's not wrong to feel affection towards fictional characters. Affection for Rinoa is the writers' intended response, so I'd say it's pretty darn normal! Well... at least... it is not uncommon among fans of fiction. You don't want to talk about it with your boss. Not everyone will get it.

In terms of the word "love" I'm a little hesitant. I would sooner use the term "infatuation" as love to me implies at least the participation of the individual in question. When there's no actual individual, the connection isn't really there even though the feelings are, so the behaviours associated with love (such as taking their needs into account when you make decisions) could become harmful to you. I present SummonerYuna as a cautionary tale: this was a person who actually believed they were married to Sephiroth, and what seemed to some like harmless fun ended up consuming her reality, becoming increasingly unstable until she came unhinged and violently antisocial. It's rare to happen, but like all things, love of fiction can be taken to unhealthy extremes.

Roleplaying is magic. It goes beyond the empathy we exercise when reading or watching. If the game is properly immersive, it's pretty much SND. I wouldn't hesitate to say that I love Rinoa as Squall, or that I love Liara as Cmd. Shepard, and much of the passion in the LTD comes from real love between a thousand Clouds and a thousand Tifas and Aeriths. And I will readily admit that my admiration and affection for Garnet, Tifa and Aeris extends beyond playtime, and into pleasant daydream territory. But while I am thus infatuated, it's not my love. It's Squall's/Shepard's/Cloud's/Zidane's. I just happened to feel it while I *was* them.

As for wanting to find Rinoa's traits in a real person, that's super healthy!! And we've been doing it since old times ("Make him strong like Achilles!"). No one is going to be a perfect replica of your dream girl, but Rinoa shares lots of traits with lots of people! Best of luck

Squall Leonhart Loire · 03/15/2017

I think many Central Asian women share traits with Rinoa.

Octo · 03/15/2017

Mr. Ite wrote: I present SummonerYuna as a cautionary tale: this was a person who actually believed they were married to Sephiroth, and what seemed to some like harmless fun ended up consuming her reality, becoming increasingly unstable until Cloverfield came out

Fixed

Squall Leonhart Loire · 03/15/2017

Octo wrote:
Mr. Ite wrote: I present SummonerYuna as a cautionary tale: this was a person who actually believed they were married to Sephiroth, and what seemed to some like harmless fun ended up consuming her reality, becoming increasingly unstable until Cloverfield came out
Fixed

Dear lord, what did I just read? I heard about this before but I never looked into it. Man is that so weird.

But she seems to be getting her life back on track.

Squall Leonhart Loire · 03/15/2017

I think many Nepali and Central Asian women have similar traits to Rinoa.

http://www.theapricity.com/forum/sho...els-from-Nepal

***Cthulhu*** · 03/15/2017

Squall Leonhart Loire wrote: When was this? Was it explicit?

Probably ten years ago, and it wasn't, more like idk, poor RPing of getting under a blanket or something

Squall Leonhart Loire · 03/15/2017

Cthulhu wrote:
Squall Leonhart Loire wrote: When was this? Was it explicit?
Probably ten years ago, and it wasn't, more like idk, poor RPing of getting under a blanket or something

Oh, were they just fooling around? I saw similar things happening on another site and things didn't end up good.

***Cthulhu*** · 03/16/2017

They were being y00f I guess, idk.

I got e-married to Paks / Katie on there, that too was awkward as fuck but I was one of the latter ones so I guess it's all good

I think I also made a record amount of like 300+ poasts in a 24 hour period on there. Probably not the actual record, but hey, points of effort.

03/15/2017	#1
Squall Leonhart Loire Junior Member Azure Dragon Join Date: Mar 2017	Is it wrong to be in love with a fictional character? (Read below) I made my dream goal a long time to find a woman like Rinoa. Is it wrong to feel this way?

03/15/2017	#3
ForceStealer Super Moderator Great Old One Double Growth Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 34 Sex: Male AKA: Ramza Beoulve, Sonic the Hedgehog, Vash the Stampede	Squall would be the worst cyber-er ever __________________ hitoshura wrote: Don't belittle my peoples, bitch. We work hard and we do what we're told. And might possibly be Scottish. ultima espio wrote: I'm not sure if it was a BOMB, it could have been MAKO, KING, BEST, or ORBS.

03/15/2017	#4
Octo Staff Emeritus Great Old One KULT OF KERMITU Join Date: Oct 2010 AKA: Octo, Octorawk, Clarky Cat, Kissmammal2000	Depends. When you say like Rinoa do you just mean 'looks like' or personality? Just cos, if it's the former you're probably setting yourself up for unhappiness, cos you could probably find someone who looks similar (though even that might be hard!) but then they might do your head in personality wise But no, I don't think it's wrong to be in love with a fictional character. Just don't let it impact your life to the point where you won't even consider real people. Often people have a fixed ideal, but then life can surprise you, and you might find the love of your life in someone unexpected. Assuming you give a shit off course. I think it's perfectly possible to be happy alone __________________ BUY THINGS FROM ME I HAVE AN REDBUBBLE!

03/15/2017	#7
Squall Leonhart Loire Junior Member Azure Dragon Join Date: Mar 2017	Cthulhu wrote: Not going to lie, I felt like that when I first played FFVIII Then I was given ownership of another forum (FFOF) and found a secret section where the previous owner (username Squall something) was awkwardly cybering with another user called Rinoa and I was like "yup I'm definitely over that now" When was this? Was it explicit?

03/15/2017	#10
Octo Staff Emeritus Great Old One KULT OF KERMITU Join Date: Oct 2010 AKA: Octo, Octorawk, Clarky Cat, Kissmammal2000	Mr. Ite wrote: I present SummonerYuna as a cautionary tale: this was a person who actually believed they were married to Sephiroth, and what seemed to some like harmless fun ended up consuming her reality, becoming increasingly unstable until Cloverfield came out Fixed __________________ BUY THINGS FROM ME I HAVE AN REDBUBBLE!

03/15/2017	#2
*Cthulhu* *Administrator* Great Old One Join Date: Nov 2008	Not going to lie, I felt like that when I first played FFVIII Then I was given ownership of another forum (FFOF) and found a secret section where the previous owner (username Squall something) was awkwardly cybering with another user called Rinoa and I was like "yup I'm definitely over that now"

03/15/2017	#5
Flintlock Staff Emeritus Legendary Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Finland	Cthulhu wrote: Not going to lie, I felt like that when I first played FFVIII What is it with forum admins being into video game characters?

03/15/2017	#8
Mr. Ite Ascended Member Infradian Canadian Join Date: Apr 2010 AKA: Mr. Ite	In answer to your question: no. It's not wrong to feel affection towards fictional characters. Affection for Rinoa is the writers' intended response, so I'd say it's pretty darn normal! Well... at least... it is not uncommon among fans of fiction. You don't want to talk about it with your boss. Not everyone will get it. In terms of the word "love" I'm a little hesitant. I would sooner use the term "infatuation" as love to me implies at least the participation of the individual in question. When there's no actual individual, the connection isn't really there even though the feelings are, so the behaviours associated with love (such as taking their needs into account when you make decisions) could become harmful to you. I present SummonerYuna as a cautionary tale: this was a person who actually believed they were married to Sephiroth, and what seemed to some like harmless fun ended up consuming her reality, becoming increasingly unstable until she came unhinged and violently antisocial. It's rare to happen, but like all things, love of fiction can be taken to unhealthy extremes. Roleplaying is magic. It goes beyond the empathy we exercise when reading or watching. If the game is properly immersive, it's pretty much SND. I wouldn't hesitate to say that I love Rinoa as Squall, or that I love Liara as Cmd. Shepard, and much of the passion in the LTD comes from real love between a thousand Clouds and a thousand Tifas and Aeriths. And I will readily admit that my admiration and affection for Garnet, Tifa and Aeris extends beyond playtime, and into pleasant daydream territory. But while I am thus infatuated, it's not my love. It's Squall's/Shepard's/Cloud's/Zidane's. I just happened to feel it while I was them. As for wanting to find Rinoa's traits in a real person, that's super healthy!! And we've been doing it since old times ("Make him strong like Achilles!"). No one is going to be a perfect replica of your dream girl, but Rinoa shares lots of traits with lots of people! Best of luck

03/15/2017	#11
Squall Leonhart Loire Junior Member Azure Dragon Join Date: Mar 2017	Octo wrote: Mr. Ite wrote: I present SummonerYuna as a cautionary tale: this was a person who actually believed they were married to Sephiroth, and what seemed to some like harmless fun ended up consuming her reality, becoming increasingly unstable until Cloverfield came out Fixed Dear lord, what did I just read? I heard about this before but I never looked into it. Man is that so weird. But she seems to be getting her life back on track.

03/15/2017	#13
*Cthulhu* *Administrator* Great Old One Join Date: Nov 2008	Squall Leonhart Loire wrote: When was this? Was it explicit? Probably ten years ago, and it wasn't, more like idk, poor RPing of getting under a blanket or something

03/15/2017	#14
Squall Leonhart Loire Junior Member Azure Dragon Join Date: Mar 2017	Cthulhu wrote: Squall Leonhart Loire wrote: When was this? Was it explicit? Probably ten years ago, and it wasn't, more like idk, poor RPing of getting under a blanket or something Oh, were they just fooling around? I saw similar things happening on another site and things didn't end up good.

03/16/2017	#15
*Cthulhu* *Administrator* Great Old One Join Date: Nov 2008	They were being y00f I guess, idk. I got e-married to Paks / Katie on there, that too was awkward as fuck but I was one of the latter ones so I guess it's all good I think I also made a record amount of like 300+ poasts in a 24 hour period on there. Probably not the actual record, but hey, points of effort.