The problem is that people (both men and women) tend to worry too much about how fiction characters portray themselves. Or rather, how they are portrayed. Since it's fiction, it's obvious someone decided to dress people in a particular way, and for them to have whatever body they have. In that sense, it's a conscious decision taken by somebody. Yes. But I don't think there's necessarily as much sexualisation as people make it to be. Just as "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", the same goes for this. In my opinion, that is.
And just to make sure, Rishi, if it was a female creator exploiting a female body in a sexualised manner for whatever purpose, would you be okay with it?
And "I don't care" about the origins. What I wanted to talk about was how people behaved. And I've seen way more females calling other females "whore" than I've seen men do. And based on their bodies, too.
I agree with Licorice in that, while our culture is what it is, it's up to the individual, whether to take part in it or not. I know this may sound pedantic, but if I'm the socially awkward person I am, it's because I chose not to do the very same things everyone does. Partying, dancing, drinking until you pass out, ... Those things are not for me. And only because society accepts them as "part of the game", it does not mean I have to do them. It may be a problem for me, because it makes me less interesting, socially speaking. At least with a big part of the population. But nobody's forcing me to do it, and so I can decide.
And you know what? Absolutely every male friend I have would rather have a flat-chested girlfriend than the same girl with fake breasts. The size doesn't matter, for pete's sake. Men generally like real women. At least I know I do. And yes, of course, I may have a preference on that area, but it's just another physical trait. As hair and eye color is, or height, or other stuff. It's just that. A preference. It doesn't mean you wouldn't date a person who didn't have that. We all have our preferences, be it in food, hobbies or the hipothetical boyfriend / girlfriend's looks. The thing is we need to avoid getting too obsessed with those preferences. Hell, when I had a girlfriend, I thought her the most beautiful woman on Earth (and I was wrong, not going to go too deep into this part of my life
). And I can tell you the only thing she had that was part of my preference was a relatively short height. Period.
Also, huge trigger warning. The world may be theoretically more controlled by men, in general terms. But women have a very big importance. Much more than a lot of people say they have. I simply do not believe a president's wife would not give her opinion on things, when they're not in public, for instance. And almost on every couple I know, the woman has a special power of decision that no man has.
