Thinking it over... I think the thing about the Remake that rubs me the wrong way is that it feels... flippant... in places that the OG did not feel flippant in. The scenes of the Pillar falling in Remake is probably the best example of it, but it shows up in other events to. It just feels like.... the Remake doesn't want to let the scenes that could be serious stay serious; it has to make them feel emotionally lighter somehow. And the OG... rarely did that once the tone of a scene had been established.
It should be noted that "humor" isn't the same thing as not being mature or having serious writing. The OG had a lot of of humor in it. But I have a hard time recalling scenes that were serious being... interrupted, by something to make them feel emotionally lighter. I think the only one I can think of is outside the Temple of the Ancients when Cait Sith shows up after "dying", and that's because he legitimately had no idea what had just gone down with Cloud and Seprhioth before he got there. And then he ditches the humor immediately once he realizes what is going on.
Part of this is going to be age ratings. In OG we were dealing with characters who looked like legos, and fairly basic CGI. Final Fantasy is aimed at a fairly young demographic and they have to deal with the ratings authority. Remake has been given PEGI 16 for violence in the UK, yet the OG is PEGI 12 and has more violence - including blood and dead bodies scattered around, a girl getting beaten the shit out of, rape threat and a girl having a sword thrust through her. People can forget just how much modern graphics affect how a game is age rated. Final Fantasy is not GTA or TLOU. So, many acts of violence and peril will be reduced in intensity.
Like Shinra HQ, its obvious why its not got blood and dead bodies everywhere, and we can't really expect it to. That will affect the way stuff feels.
I've seen people get angry because Cloud beating Aerith might get censored, of course it will. It's unlikely that particular event will happen in remake because violence against women is a current topic that might not go down well and age ratings. While they might be able to get away with it, they're treading a fine line. Therefore, assume no. Then, certain fans are going to go apeshit about it and say its reduced the maturity of it.
Long story short, I look at Remake and what the devs told us they wanted to do with it before and after it was released, and it very much feels like they are picking their words to be the technical truth but not the whole truth. It's hard to think they aren't trying to reveal things rather then conceal them. Normua's lines about us not knowing what the term "Remake" will actually be referring to for a few years yet is exactly what I am talking about.
Thats teasing, and its fine. I wouldn't call it dishonest, I think its fairly easy to get a feel for what that might mean. More broadly, while you havent said it, do you mean with stuff like this:
We’re not drastically changing the story and making it into something completely different than the original. Even though it’s a Remake, please assume the story of FF7 will continue as FF7 always has.
Because if you are, I think thats more nerves on the fans part. A lot of people interpret this to mean things it doesn't say or interpret it as dishonest. I think there is a lot of personal bias being projected onto what they're saying. As someone who is overall cool with whatever they do as long as its done well, I see that as a fairly honest, clear statement of intents as long as you don't try to read something else into it other than what it literally says. This mostly translates across everything they're saying.
Its saying "there will be changes, possibly some big ones, but don't worry, it won't go completely off the rails into something unrecognisable". Which makes sense, when taken into context, at the time some people were freaking out that the whole entire story was going to go completely off the rails. He's just settling their minds, if you don't try to read "its going to be exactly the same" into their statements then they make sense and are clear.
When people start thinking comments like this are dishonest and questioning "what does drastically mean?" or "what does something completely different mean?". Thats clearly something they can't answer to the fans, it's not like they can say "ok guys, well, here are our storyboards, this is what you're going to get".