Harry Potter and the Chitter of Chatting

[Ⓐaron]

Basically, looking at this post, makes it seem you think about the minutiae too much!

"WHOA WHOA. IF WE HAVE SEX FOR 23 MINUTES WE HAVE TO BE EQUALLY PLEASURED AT THE SAME TIME FOR 23 OF THOSE MINUTES"

"HEY. NO GETTING AROUSED YET. *pulls out stopwatch* ON MY MARK..."

(not mocking, just poking fun!)

Sex isn't about entirely equal feelings at the same time. Sex is about two people having fun and having sex, and both being satisfied at the end. Every moment of it doesn't have to be entirely equal, and as a guy, I'll speak for all guys to say that we could really care less about it. F

or example, giving a girl oral isn't giving me the EXACT AMOUNT OF PHYSICAL PLEASURE as she's getting, but she's happy, so it's all cool with me. Expecting an equal turnout during every second of the journey instead of the destination is just putting too much time and effort, instead of actually having sex. It should be an equal effort, but some onesidedness isn't bad either!

In fact, giving pleasure to you partner and knowing you're not getting the exact same amount at that time feels good in itself.

I'll agree with this. I'll also add that this is also the main reason many people find light bondage appealing - being tied up and not having to focus on pleasuring one's partner, simply on receiving pleasure, then having the roles reversed and focusing on giving pleasure instead of receiving it, is a nice switch from the usual sex acts where both partners are focused much more on pleasuring the other.

This thread is also making me really goddamn lonely

 

[Alessa Gillespie]

I highly disagree. If you were a teenager now, you'd be appalled by how many people profess their love for one another so quickly. Three dates, and BAM. They confess they're love, they're doing it, and the next thing you know she's knocked up with a boyfriend that ran off.

Actually, my dad asked my mom to marry him on the second date. Teenagers never got smarter.

 

[Cat Rage Room]

I kinda want to say 'you're only 16, what do you know?' Not to be insulting, but at 16, hell, at 21, or even your thirties, you don't know shit. In fact, every year you get older, you were much stupider last year.

That humbleness has saved my ass quite a few times.

And I'd say that just proves how strong the two are to stick to each other and fight off the bad crap that happens along the way.

Yeah, which is love. What does the term mean to you?

 

[crack]

I highly disagree. If you were a teenager now, you'd be appalled by how many people profess their love for one another so quickly. Three dates, and BAM. They confess they're love, they're doing it, and the next thing you know she's knocked up with a boyfriend that ran off.

That's what I thought too. I mean, I was only a sixteen year old three years ago.

And I'd say that just proves how strong the two are to stick to each other and fight off the bad crap that happens along the way.

NO, it's their love that keeps them strong.

 

[Dawnbreaker]

I think the problem is that people go OMFGWEARESOINLOVE<33333 and forget that love is hard work, dedication and a lot of shit a lot of the times. Sure it's fucking fantastic many times but it also has a number of real shitastic times. So it's about realizing the deep connection, whatever you call it, and realizing it's human but special at the same time. Enjoy it for what it is, not pretend it's something it's not.

Also, there's a certain amount of enjoyment a person (or at least I) gets from seeing the way their partner reacts to a lot of really good lovin'.

 

[Ⓐaron]

I think the problem is that people go OMFGWEARESOINLOVE<33333 and forget that love is hard work, dedication and a lot of shit a lot of the times. Sure it's fucking fantastic many times but it also has a number of real shitastic times. So it's about realizing the deep connection, whatever you call it, and realizing it's human but special at the same time. Enjoy it for what it is, not pretend it's something it's not.

Also, there's a certain amount of enjoyment a person (or at least I) gets from seeing the way their partner reacts to a lot of really good lovin'.

Quoted for truth on both points.

 

[Joker]

Agreed. Giving the other person pleasure it what brings me pleasure. Simple, really.

Actually, my dad asked my mom to marry him on the second date. Teenagers never got smarter.

I think we need to stop and discuss this/hear the story, tbh.

 

[crack]

My mom and dad always say he/she is their soulmate, and I know they're in love with each other. So yeah, there is love.

 

[Alessa Gillespie]

I think we need to stop and discuss this/hear the story, tbh.

My mom was in college and her friend told her about this hot dude who worked at Taco Johns. So she went there and they were both attracted to each other. The first date they had fun, the second date she was asked to marry him and she laughed in his face. It wasn't until three months later that she agreed to marry him and then they had me.

But they got divorced seven years later, so.

 

[Makoeyes987]

Seriously, if true hatred can exist then love is a given. They're two sides of the same coin, and sometimes they can be very, VERY similar.

 

[Dawnbreaker]

I asked a kid to marry when I was eight.

Yes, I was just that stupid. xD But while you can feel love when you're young you're also not as equipped to handle it, not having had the experiences that age teaches you.

And I think it's my controlling nature but I really enjoy pleasuring a guy and watching him fall apart at seeing me dressed up, or the way I touch him, etc. You realize you're powerful, sexy and that you're giving the one you love most a precious gift.

That's sex at it's best <3

 

[crack]

I think the problem is that people go OMFGWEARESOINLOVE<33333 and forget that love is hard work, dedication and a lot of shit a lot of the times. Sure it's fucking fantastic many times but it also has a number of real shitastic times. So it's about realizing the deep connection, whatever you call it, and realizing it's human but special at the same time. Enjoy it for what it is, not pretend it's something it's not.

Teenagers these days. (not meant to you Alise) I have a twelve year old cousin who always claims she's in love and then the next day she breaks up with the dude, then goes to another guy and claims she's in love with him.

 

[crack]

Seriously, if true hatred can exist then love is a given. They're two sides of the same coin, and sometimes they can be very, VERY similar.

This. If there is hate, there is love.

 

[Carlos]

I asked a kid to marry when I was eight.

Yes, I was just that stupid. xD But while you can feel love when you're young you're also not as equipped to handle it, not having had the experiences that age teaches you.

And I think it's my controlling nature but I really enjoy pleasuring a guy and watching him fall apart at seeing me dressed up, or the way I touch him, etc. You realize you're powerful, sexy and that you're giving the one you love most a precious gift.

That's sex at it's best <3

will you...marry me?

 

[Joker]

Agreed again :3

Is it bad that I've given a lot of thought to how I would propose to someone? O.o

 

[A]

As a little kid I used to put a pillow case over my head and force my friend to marry me.

 

[Dawnbreaker]

@ Mums: Sorry, dear, don't think Tim would like that.

Also, I don't think people are arguing love, but rather true love. I just happen to think it exists but it isn't limited to one particular couple--you can find it more than once. I found it twice in fact, and both times it was really great.

And as said, love and hate can be very similar, especially if one spurs on the other.

 

[Tifaeria]

Basically, looking at this post, makes it seem you think about the minutiae too much!

"WHOA WHOA. IF WE HAVE SEX FOR 23 MINUTES WE HAVE TO BE EQUALLY PLEASURED AT THE SAME TIME FOR 23 OF THOSE MINUTES"

"HEY. NO GETTING AROUSED YET. *pulls out stopwatch* ON MY MARK..."

(not mocking, just poking fun!)

LOL! HOW DID YOU KNOW THAT'S HOW I KICK IT?!



<333

I'll agree with this. I'll also add that this is also the main reason many people find light bondage appealing - being tied up and not having to focus on pleasuring one's partner, simply on receiving pleasure, then having the roles reversed and focusing on giving pleasure instead of receiving it, is a nice switch from the usual sex acts where both partners are focused much more on pleasuring the other.

This thread is also making me really goddamn lonely

Aw man, sorry bout that. This thread is also making me goddamn depressed/lonely because I never had a boyfriend before and it makes me even more of a freak that I don't do those positions that guys love and would probably not date me because of it.
And now thanks to Ali, I'll never find true love because it doesn't exist.
I dunno if I like bondage. I bruise very easily so that's might not work.

 

[crack]

When I put a pillow case on my head, it was only because I was playing the Flying Nun...

 

[Cat Rage Room]

Aw man, sorry bout that. This thread is also making me goddamn depressed/lonely because I never had a boyfriend before and it makes me even more of a freak that I don't do those positions that guys love and would probably not date me because of it.
And now thanks to Ali, I'll never find true love because it doesn't exist.
I dunno if I like bondage. I bruise very easily so that's might not work.

Oh, you will. You'll like it too. Trust me.

 

[A]

Aw man, sorry bout that. This thread is also making me goddamn depressed/lonely because I never had a boyfriend before and it makes me even more of a freak that I don't do those positions that guys love and would probably not date me because of it.
And now thanks to Ali, I'll never find true love because it doesn't exist.

D = I'm sorry!

When I put a pillow case on my head, it was only because I was playing the Flying Nun...

Lol.

 

[Joker]

Dawn: That's not Mumble

 

[Alessa Gillespie]

Maybe you can't find true love, but you can find someone you could love for the rest of your life. IMO.

 

[Joker]

^ That.

 

[crack]

Spending the rest of your life with someone is romantic. That's a strong commitment, right there.