It's all bizarre to me because as much as I hated Aerith in the OG (overflirty side and egocentrism, I did not see her kindness there and on top of that the game tried to sell me her romance with Cloud way too much, while I adored Tifa because she was strong and kind), I just bluntly stated it and did not try to make an argument of it. I mean, it was how I felt towards her, but it wasn't the reason why I didn't ship her with Cloud - since I didn't ship anything before the LS scene.
Now that I do love her, I understand why you'd hate on her - I mean, I used to, too - but saying how Cloud and Aerith aren't friends etc., that's bogus. Aerith is an important nakama to Cloud, in fact she has the same closeness to him as Zack does - which is why ACC associates them so much in Cloud's mind. The devs have made an important job of revisiting Aerith's character especially, and I think that's because they realised that some of the criticisms she received were warranted. Like her overflirty side has disappeared (given to Jessie instead), we do see her kindness, she bonds with all the characters, not only Cloud... I think it's really important because her death will impact all the characters in the party but in the OG we never saw her truly bond, except once or twice with Tifa - and we didn't really get more than that. Aerith, to me, is definitely the best Aerith we could hope for in Remake, and the best out of all her appearances in the Compilation to me.