People often cannot see the mountain of privilege beneath them - especially when they're trying to climb to the very summit of their lives. Often, these people have unrealistic expectations of those who (invisibly or visibly) were born further down the slope, or on a different mountain altogether (a mountain whose summit you cannot fathom because you are simply unable to see it as a goal. Them's the breaks.)
We're taught to think that the top of our specific mountain is the goal for all life, and that those who do not match our climb are either unable or unwilling. If it's the illusion of disability that prevents our fellow humans from matching us in step, we tend to think of them as unfortunate. This way of thinking is problematic, it suggests a right-and-wrong way to find success, a view created by the people who are
able to see the top of their mountain.
When in the company of other people who we deem able (for the sake of argument, we'll say that Tifa considers Barret able to climb the stairs without giving in to despair) it is easier to establish a success goal that
by its very nature creates the illusion of a disadvantaged section of the population.
Origin of the word Retard
1480-90; < Latin retardāre to delay, protract, equivalent to re- re- + tardāre to loiter, be slow, derivative of tardus slow; see tardy
In french, "en retard" means "late."
It is important to note that in English, this word has CHANGED. Much like "gay" no longer means "feeling light and breezy," and much like "hysterical" no longer means "horny" the word "retard" cannot simply mean what it says in the dictionary, which is:
adjective
1. characterized by a slowness or limitation in intellectual understanding and awareness, emotional development, academic progress, etc.
2. Slang. stupid or foolish.
In reality, "retarded" more often than not refers to someone with downsyndrome, autism, a low IQ, and it is used to associate a certain BEHAVIOR with those differently-abled people.
However, as has been said, this is a character saying a line, not a message from the creator.
The "problematic nature" of the line is twofold: First, encountering a behavior in Barret that she sees as unproductive causes Tifa to scold him.
The second aspect, and the one that we've been focusing on so far, is that Tifa associates that behavior with a group of people she sees as unable. We've covered that pretty well, and there's nothing I can add to the conversation that I haven't said above, but I think the two aspects of the problem are interrelated.
Let's look at what she's reacting to. After climbing many stairs, Barret's whining reaches pathetic levels. I use "pathetic" in the literary sense,
any of these definitions will do. The line he is moved to speak, out loud, evokes the emotional bond between him and his daughter. "Marlene, Daddy wanted to see your face one more time..."
It is my opinion that Barret is giving voice to his fears in order to propel himself forward. Marlene is a consistent motivating factor for him. If I had to run
full sprint up 60 floors I would need a very vivid motivating factor to keep my body going, especially if I were over 6' tall and my arms weighed 100 pounds each (I assume the gun-arm weighs even more). Barret is not the kind of person to hold his thoughts in his heart. He gives all his sorrow words, it's one of the things I like about him.
Tifa, who lives in the exact opposite way emotionally, sees this as a weakness. The last time she gave voice to what was on her mind, it was over her dead father's body. She has been shut up in her heart for five years, moving forward by sheer will and anger, pushing thoughts of despair down inside of her. After Sector 7 falls, she hesitates before going after Aeris, saying "I don't know about me... my feelings..." later, she changes her mind, and her explanation is "If I stayed here, I'd go
crazy." She's in constant turmoil and doubt, knowing that her own mind is her biggest obstacle on her path to success. This emotional arc comes to a head in disc 2 when she sees wheelchair!Cloud and everything she has pushed down comes crashing upwards,
completely immobilizing her and removing her from the story.
Given the disparity between Tifa and Barret, it is easy to see why an outward display of emotional despair (especially one that
sounds like Barret is giving up) would ENRAGE Tifa to the point of lashing out.
I don't know if any other word would match the careless malice that comes out of Tifa's mouth in that moment. "Drama queen" doesn't cut it, and is problematic for several other reasons. "Idiot" accomplishes the same thing, and its only a matter of time before we get to that (I've already linked to articles condemning the word 'crazy').
"Don't be pathetic," works.