I'll respond to the stuff actually addressed to me soon, Skyrim is already calling me back. But I hope maybe I can help people understand better where we're coming from.
I agree with you a lot, really I think it has to do with "CloTi is canon lol" being shoved on us so much when we're trying to enjoy C/A, we feel the need to debate against it.
Why, though? Does another pairing being narratively realized make your enjoyment of the other pairing less valid?
Does your pairing have to be true to be enjoyable?
Hell, a lot of the folks arguing pro-C/T ship Tifa/Kain thanks to Dissidia. And that IS a straight up crack pairing. Knowing it can never be doesn't really hurt their enjoyment of it.
Hell, I entertain crackier thoughts myself (not pairing related, just hilarious), and I know for a fact that SE will never say Richard sired Kain who sired Cid in return.
I know it will never give me a chain of descent from Cid to Cid through Rikku, even though such a thing is possible, or that Wakka and Lulu's progeny results in the Lockharts. Shit's just never gonna happen. But fuck if the thought still doesn't entertain me.
I know this sounds dumb, bear with me for a little! (please)
I don't think Cloud getting with Tifa could change what he has with Aerith, but some people really want us to think differently - them damn trolls that stalk us.
Not saying it's happening here, but some people act like Cloud/Tifa being canon would make us rethink everything or stop liking Cloud and Aerith. Even shippers of obviously fanon pairings don't get as much of a hard time, and to us it's like, we have as much right as everybody else.
"Trolls who stalk you?"
Would this be Tana?
And there is a difference between the way that fanon pairing shippers have acted and members of CxA and especially the associated websites have acted. And has been acting for at least half a decade that I can recall. Probably longer.
We often see people say things like "Cloud doesn't love Aerith because CloTi is canon.
I want to hit that person just for how badly their argument is formulated. That's entirely fallacious reasoning, even if the premise and the conclusion are correct, because it's a complete non sequitor.
You can't support your side because of this, you're crazy, etc." It feels like we wouldn't be sticking up for ourselves if we didn't debate against this, because it's where all of the hate, insults and trolling comes from, this belief that Tifa being the girl Cloud loves in canon means we're lesser people for thinking he loves Aerith.
Wait, what? Where is this 'belief' coming from?
So it seems like now, it's expected of us to argue against it. It's like the only way to raise the middle finger to the trolls - anything else would feel like we're just accepting what gets said to us, and we don't. I don't think there would be as much of a problem if we were "allowed" to like what we do in peace. We venture out to Youtube, Deviant Art, and other forums but our own and people look down on us. After awhile, it feels like proving C/T isn't canon and that C/A is just as acceptable is the only thing left to do.
Then A: You're doing it wrong, and more importantly B: the trolls have won.
The trolls want to provoke you into an emotional response to get a reaction out of you. Trolls are trawling for you to make a scene, and that's what you're doing when you argue anti-C/T instead of in support of your own ship.
I never meant to put down Cloud and Tifa as a pairing. I think everybody's entitled to their own thing, if it's special to you.
Yes and no.
There is a saying, I do not know the originator of it, which goes 'Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. They are not entitled to their own facts.'
Nearly all of us see this as a matter of narrative factuality rather than preference.
P.S. (Not trying to say we're almighty victims wah cry for us. I just blame the trolls.)
P.P.S (it'd be freakin' sweet if nobody got mad at me.)
Well, if it the trolls you blame, then it should be upon you to simply say 'fuck you, trolls,' rather than argue against people who aren't, which no one here is, I don't think. Including the Homestuck contingent.
It's scary posting here, dude. But I'm really happy you said this. Wasn't expecting to hear it.
Uh, why?
I mean, I know I'm 'the big bad evil Cloti' and what not, but shit, I'd prefer a direct butting of heads to a proxy war any day.