I've said this before, but what people interpret as Cloud and Aerith's "chemistry" is simply a combination of HER charm and jokes at his expense, which is funny to us the audience. That's comedy, not chemistry.
I'm not sure how much real life should factor into this, but in real life an introvert would find Aerith abrasive, and I've heard some people call Aerith annoying.
I agree with most of your thoughts on the matter.
Obviously this is all hypothetical because we don’t actually know what a romantic relationship between them would be like, but I think what appeals to a lot of CA shippers is the cliché of “opposites attract.” It’s a popular trope in anime/manga and the like, so I can see why people gravitate toward it.
But at the end of the day, in real relationships, opposites
don’t usually attract. People generally get along most with people they’re similar to and have similar interests with. If we’re going by basic personalities, Aerith and Zack are very similar, as are Cloud and Tifa.
Aerith and Zack: extroverts, cheerful, optimistic, down for adventure and general shenanigans.
Cloud and Tifa: introverts, calm, more guarded and insecure, long for stability and a home.
Aerith is naturally outgoing and pushy (not necessarily in a bad way), and it forces others around her to adapt — including Cloud (and Tifa, for that matter.) She’s a very “go at my pace” type of person. It’s what makes her so endearing (or annoying to some), and what attracts people to her in the first place. So Cloud is forced to go along with her shenanigans, but while he’s exasperated, he doesn’t hate it. It’s a cute and funny dynamic to see play out on screen.
However, once you place them in a long-term relationship, things aren’t so clear cut. It’s not that I don’t think Cloud and Aerith wouldn’t work per se (if I were younger I might actually prefer their dynamic because it’s very “Disney”), but, in my opinion, Aerith doesn’t understand Cloud on a fundamental level — what he needs in a partner. And vice-versa. Their relationship is very one-sided, in that Aerith does most of the work while Cloud just kinda deals with it.
Aerith doesn’t really know when to stop pushing Cloud’s buttons, and if he were in a funk he would lash out at her attempts to make him feel better. (We actually see this in the Remake, when he snaps at her in Elmyra’s house.) She can see what’s wrong with him, but doesn’t know how to fix it.
If Aerith were feeling down, Cloud isn’t one for sweeping romantic gestures and I think he’d find it very difficult to comfort her in a way that she needs. He’d probably shy away from the situation and just piss Aerith off. She’d get angry and he’d shy away even more. We also don’t know what she would’ve thought of real!Cloud because she never met him.
Cloud and Tifa’s issue is a lack of verbal communication, but they also just
get each other. You can see this in the Remake — Tifa is established as Cloud’s second-in-command and he intrinsically trusts her to have his back. But the clearest showcase of this is the entire Lifestream sequence, which is the most intimate narrative sequence in the entire game. Tifa literally dives into Cloud’s subconscious and learns his deepest secrets, fears, insecurities.
Cloud and Tifa have an understanding of each other in a way no other characters in the game do. And while they struggle with words, they make up for it in action. Sure, their romantic relationship might not have fireworks or butterflies, but they’re
equals. The embodiment of “in sickness and in health,” so very much life partners, in that way.
(It’s also why I don’t agree with people who say that if Aerith had lived, Cloud would choose to be with her. Post-Lifestream sequence leaves no room to question in my mind. It wouldn’t make narrative or logical sense to have Cloud and Aerith become a couple after you learn the reason that Cloud is even on this journey is because of Tifa.)
But this is all digression off the Remake... Barret is best daddy.