Here is a conversation that my stepmom and stepsister had... while I was in the room.
stepsister: whose is this? (she points to my coffee I got at 7-11 when I walked there) Why didn't I get any? (I don't mind my stepsister but she has the mentality of a 10 year old; she wants anything that anyone else in the family gets)
stepmom: that's Chelsea's (my name is Chelsea), you know she doesn't think of anyone but herself.
....what? I mean, fuck, I walk somewhere and I get myself my own fucking food and drink, and because of this I won't be eating dinner with them. This saves them money and me hassle because I am sick of being harassed about eating their food. I still do sometimes (simple things like yogurt or sandwiches)
Yet, somehow, buying my own food makes me "stingy" because I won't share with the family. What the fuck. My stepmom bitched up a storm the other day because I took "her" yogurt. It was a fucking 50 cent yogurt, I had no idea it was hers, and she just made a bunch of nasty remarks about how "she should buy her own food and be selfish and not share like me". I didn't even fucking reply, I never reply to her when she talks to me like that because the last time I did she ended up screaming at me and what with my anxiety issues I just can't fucking take that.
My dad doesn't really pay attention to how she treats me (she really doesn't treat me badly, most of the time everyone just ignores me) and occasionally if she's rude to me he'll apologize on her behalf.
It just doesn't feel fair or right, though. My dad abandoned my family as a kid and he never, ever visited me. I did not get to come to his wedding when he married this woman. The only reason I'm here is because my mother became an emotionally abusive borderline alcoholic, and I dropped out of high school (I did end up finishing, albeit late, before I left California) and was struggling with severe anxiety issues.
Since I moved out here I have held a job. I did not do school because I had been planning since my senior year to take a year off, and I did. I have been working very hard.
Just as soon as I'm about to start college my Stepmom informs me that I'm being kicked out because "my time there is up". I can't even bring myself to talk to my father about it, I hardly know the man and since he has two cute new kids with my Stepmom and has diligently taken care of my stepsister he DOES NOT, I repeat, DOES NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT ME. Yeah, he loves me, or so he says, but he won't take any financial or emotional care of me (other than claiming me on his tax return and robbing me of $300) and he seems to think this is okay way to be. Don't even get me started on how he treats my fucking brother.
As if all of this wasn't bad enough my stepmom is NEVER straightforward with me. Instead of asking me to do things like my mother does, or even my father does, she's EXTREMELY immature about things that I do that upset her. Instead of saying "hey, can you please do this" she talks directly to my stepsister about how that certain behavior of mine annoys her or she just loudly announces to the house that I should stop doing that and talks about how much it annoys her in the most offensive way possible.
I cannot fucking STAND this. I have a lot of beef with my biological mother but for fuck's sake at least she knew how to deal with people maturely. While Sharon (my stepmom) is a more "traditional" mother (she has strict house rules and based on the way my stepsister came out she raises rather sheltered kids. She's very hands on and not overly affectionate) but she treats me like we are both in High School and I'm some chick she doesn't like. It's completely fucking immature. At least my own mother knows how to deal with teenagers, and especially other people's kids.
Now that I'm being kicked out, she talks all the time about how the house will be cleaner when I'm gone and what they're going to do with my bed. She does it just to get a rise out of me and I feel like I'm going to EXPLODE. I never, ever respond (like I said, I responded once and it ended horribly. My fucking father apologized for her) but it really eats away at me and causes me more anxiety than I already have to deal with.
I can't understand how a woman who is widely regarded as a good mother can be so immature and shitty to her stepdaughter. When she says these things I feel like she's a different person, I just DO NOT get it. Like I said, her parenting skills are different than what I was raised with, and before my mom became a real monster/started drinking a lot she was the kind of parent I'D rather be, just a personal opinion, but seriously Sharon is a mature and strict mom. How is it that she manages to be such a petty, rude stepmother?
I guess I feel like after spending two years dealing with the hell of living with my biological mother's treatment I don't feel like I fucking deserve this. The fact that my father won't even let me stay upsets me even more.
I'm considering moving out early. Would this be stupid (I'm trying to save money) or would it be better for me?
anyways I'm crying like a little girl now so I'm gonna go out for a walk and smoke. I may move this to its own topic since it got fucking huge.
Sorry if I hurt your feelings. lol.
